My Take on Tattoos
I sort of recall the first time that I noticed a tattoo on someone. We had a family friend---I can’t recall his name. This person was someone whom we always saw at church each Sunday. He was an older gentleman, someone who could have been my grandfather. His wife was just as nice, and she always found a way to sneak me a Certs mint during church services.
Okay. This was a good enough response for me. I didn’t give much thought to it other than anytime I saw someone with a tattoo, I just figured that they had been in the military. I didn’t ask how the tattoos were made. I just figured the people did this to themselves with colors or markers. This was from the perspective of an eight-year-old boy.
Another time I remember seeing people with tattoos was on the television. There was a television show that my parents always watched on Friday nights called 20/20. It was one of those investigative television news shows, similar to 60 Minutes. I think both of these shows were about the only ones of their kind at the time. I initially watched the show with my parents because there was nothing else for me to do. The show came on at 9:00 pm, so it was dark outside, and I couldn’t go out and play. The desktop computer was still in its infancy at this time so that wasn’t an option (How did we survive without computers?). I wasn’t going to read a book unless I absolutely had to. There was no need to get to sleep early because I didn’t have school the next day, so I sat up and watched 20/20 with my parents and learned about all kinds of current events that were happening around the world, along with the top personalities in Hollywood and politics.
One evening 20/20 had a feature on the infamous Hell’s Angels motorcycle gang. The story was about how the gang still existed in pockets of the country, their organization, history, etc. Wow! “Who are these people, Mom?” She did her best to give me the Rated G version of the freedom movement of the late 60’s and early 70’s and that these guys rode around on motorcycles because they didn’t have jobs and that they didn’t always make the best choices. While watching this feature, I noticed lots of men and women dressed in leather on motorcycles all of whom had tattoos, some with scary looking angels that apparently signified their membership in the gang.
So, my ten-year-old mind suddenly had an epiphany about tattoos. If you were in the military and served your country, it was okay for you to have a tattoo, and you were probably a good person. All others with tattoos didn’t have jobs, robbed people, and drank lots of beer. Again, this was my understanding at the age of ten. And looking back on it now, I kind of wonder how mainstream America viewed tattoos at the time? Good, bad, indifferent? I don’t know. My parents never said good or bad about tattoos. I did kind of instinctively know that this was something they would never allow me to have on my own skin unless I was supporting myself, living under a different roof, and probably living in a different country.
Fast forward to the mid-90’s. I don’t quite recall if tattoos had become more of a mainstream type of style. I do recall younger females getting the inconspicuous, small tattoos on their ankle areas. You know, small enough to miss but one might glimpse it. These were tattoos of hearts, crosses, ladybugs, you know, some type of safe genre. They seemed to say, “Hey look at me. I’m wild enough to get a tattoo, but I’m not a Hell’s Angel!” I guess around this time, I could understand the small, innocent tattoo stuff.
Within the past ten years, it seems that the popularity of tattoos is at an all-time high: expression of oneself through ink on skin is common now. I’m sure that social acceptance has something to do with this. We’ve seen the social acceptance of many things that used to be perceived as taboo, right or wrong. Everyone is entitled to his or her opinions.
My kids are elementary school age, and we often frequent the public pools in the summers to escape the heat. A public pool is a great place to see the popularity of tattoos these days. And age doesn’t really seem to matter either. This can be a little repulsive at times. We always tend to think that it’s the younger generations that decide to get tattoos. But there are some older folks out there that do as well. Or maybe these older folks are still carrying their tattoos with them from their younger days. I’ve noticed that aging skin can distort the images. My kids ask me about the tattoos that we see from time to time and most times I just change the subject. But when I do feel inclined to explain, I let them know that people who get tattoos have a reason, mainly to tell others something about themselves without having to say it. I always throw in that a tattoo is like taking a Sharpie marker to your body but with 1000 times the strength. I’ve decided not to try and explain that tattoos are made with needles or that they can be removed with lasers. They also know that they are forbidden from using their allowances for tattoos.
My Hell’s Angel view on tattoos, unless of course you are in the military, changed about seven years ago. I had a lovely secretary that I used to work with who was old enough to be my mother, and there were many times that she treated me as her son. She was an absolute pleasure to work with. She was an extremely hard worker and demonstrated the most patience I have ever seen when dealing with difficult people. She was a wonderful wife, parent, and grandparent. She lost her husband in a horrible accident one summer, a man she had been married to for many years. A few months after his death, I noticed that she had gotten a very small tattoo of her deceased husband’s initials on the top part of her right hand, right above the wrist. I thought this was pretty cool. This was also the last person on the face of the earth that I would have ever imagined getting a tattoo. She was no Hell’s Angel and hadn’t served in the military! So, I developed a new group of folks who get tattoos: those with a true sense of purpose and a high level of confidence in themselves and what they believe. I guess I concluded that many people from all walks of life get tattoos, and, of course, I shouldn’t assume that they are members of the Hell’s Angels or served in the military. They could have their own reasons for getting their tattoos. So, I’ve learned to look beyond the tattoo, to learn more about the person rather than to fit them into one of my tattoo categories. It’s no different than the old adage of not judging a book by its cover.
So, I suppose I’m a little wiser than I used to be. I have done my best to broaden my opinion of those with tattoos. I don’t have a problem with people that make the decision to get them. “To each, their own!” I say, as long as they aren’t putting another person in harm’s way. Just realize others may judge you and your tattoos a little differently, right or wrong, and for the sake of other folk’s stomachs, please realize when you have hit the age when it is time to cover those things up!
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